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‫زنروز‬ ‫ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺷﺎﺧﺺ‬

‫ﻣﻬﻨﺎﺯﺍﻓﺨﻤﻰ‬

‫ﻣﻬﻨﺎﺯ ﺍﻓﺨﻤﻰ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ‪1941‬ﺩﺭ ﻛﺮﻣﺎﻥ‬

‫ﻣﺘﻮﻟﺪ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺑﻨﻴﺎﻧﮕﺬﺍﺭ ﻭ ﺭﺋﻴﺲ‬

‫ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻧﻰ‪-‬ﺁﻣﺮﻳﻜﺎﻳﻰ ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭﻯ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﻓﺮﺍﮔﻴﺮﻯ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺎﻥ )‪ (WLP‬ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﻯ ﻫﻤﭽﻨﻴﻦ ﻣﺪﻳﺮ‬

‫ﺍﺟﺮﺍﻳﻰ ﺑﻨﻴﺎﺩ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﺎﺕ ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻧﻰ ﻭ ﻭﺯﻳﺮ ﭘﻴﺸﻴﻦ‬

‫ﺍﻣﻮﺭ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﮕﺎﻫﻬﺎﻯ‬

‫ﺳﺎﻥ ﻓﺮﺍﻧﺴﻴﺴﻜﻮ ﻭ ﻛﻮﻟﻮﺭﺍﺩﻭ ﺗﺤﺼﻴﻞ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ‬

‫ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ‪ 1967‬ﺍﺳﺘﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﮕﺎﻩ ﻣﻠﻰ‬

‫ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻥ ﺷﺪ‪.‬ﺍﻓﺨﻤﻰ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺑﻴﺶ ﺍﺯ ﺳﻪ ﺩﻫﻪ ﺩﺭ‬

‫ﺯﻣﻴﻨﻪ ﺣﻘﻮﻕ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻓﻌﺎﻝ ﺑﻮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﻯ ﺑﻪ‬

‫ﻃﻮﺭ ﮔﺴﺘﺮﺩﻩ ﻭ ﻣﺪﺍﻭﻡ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺟﻨﺒﺶ ﺟﻬﺎﻧﻰ‬

‫ﺯﻧﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﺣﻘﻮﻕ ﺑﺸﺮ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻭ ‪ ...‬ﺗﺪﺭﻳﺲ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‬

‫ﻭ ﻣﻘﺎﻟﻪ ﻣﻨﺘﺸﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ‪ 1969‬ﭘﺲ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺮﺧﺼﻰ ﺯﺍﻳﻤﺎﻥ ﻭ ﺣﻖ ﺑﺮﺧﻮﺭﺩﺍﺭﻯ‬

‫ﻛﺴﻰﺑﻪﻓﻜﺮﮔﻞﻫﺎﻧﻴﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﺍﺗﺤﺎﺩﻳﻪ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﮕﺎﻫﻰ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻨﻴﺎﻥ ﻧﻬﺎﺩ ﻭ ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺴﻬﻴﻼﺕ ﻧﮕﻬﺪﺍﺭﻯ ﺍﺯ ﻛﻮﺩﻛﺎﻥ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ‬
‫ﻛﺴﻰﺑﻪﻓﻜﺮﻣﺎﻫﻰﻫﺎﻧﻴﺴﺖ‬
‫ﻣﺮﻭﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﻭ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﻏﻞ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺼﻮﻳﺐ ﻛﺮﺩ ﻭ ﻗﺎﻧﻮﻥ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺒﺶ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺷﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ‪ 1970‬ﺩﺑﻴﺮﻛﻞ‬
‫ﻛﺴﻰﻧﻤﻰﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﺩﺭﺧﺸﺎﻥ ﺻﺪﻑ ﺩﻫﺎﻧﺘﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩﺳﺎﻝ‪ 1967‬ﺭﺍﮔﺴﺘﺮﺵﺩﺍﺩ‪.‬ﻭﻯﭘﺲﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻥ )‪ (WOI‬ﺷﺪ‪.‬ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ‬
‫ﺑﺎﻭﺭﻛﻨﺪﻛﻪﺑﺎﻏﭽﻪﺩﺍﺭﺩﻣﻰﻣﻴﺮﺩ‬ ‫ﻭﻗﻮﻉ ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻣﺮﻳﻜﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻋﻀﻮ ﺍﻧﺠﻤﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫‪1975‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻭﺯﻳﺮ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺎﺑﻴﻨﻪ ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻥ‬
‫ﻛﻪﻗﻠﺐﺑﺎﻏﭽﻪﺩﺭﺯﻳﺮﺁﻓﺘﺎﺏﻭﺭﻡﻛﺮﺩﻩ‬ ‫ﻭ ﺷﻮﺭﺍﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔﻰ ﺧﺪﻣﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﻭ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ‪،‬‬ ‫ﭘﻴﻮﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﻤﺖ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭﻟﺖ‬

‫ﻓﺮوغ ﻓﺮﺧﺰاد‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﻫﺎﻳﻰ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻣﺮﻭﺍﺭﻳﺪﻯ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻣﻴﺎﻥ ﻣﻰ ﺗﻮﺍﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺷﺎﺧﻪ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺩﻳﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻥ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺖ ﻭ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻯ ﻛﻪ‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﺫﻫﻦ ﺑﺎﻏﭽﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺁﺭﺍﻡ ﺁﺭﺍﻡ‬ ‫ﻟﺒﺨﻨﺪ ﺯﻳﺒﺎ ﻭﺟﺬﺍﺏ ﺗﺮﻯ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺣﺎﻝ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ﻣﻄﺮﺡ ﻣﻰ‬ ‫ﺣﻘﻮﻕ ﺑﺸﺮ‪ ،‬ﻣﻮﺯﻩ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺍﻟﻤﻠﻠﻰ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ)ﺍﺯ ﺳﺎﻝ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺳﻤﺘﻰ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺧﺎﻧﻢ‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺧﺎﻃﺮﺍﺕ ﺳﺒﺰ ﺗﻬﻰ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﻫﺎﻳﻰ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﺍﺩ ﺧﻮﺭﺍﻛﻰ ﻛﻤﻚ‬ ‫‪ ،(2000‬ﻫﻴﺎﺕ ﻣﺪﻳﺮﻩ ﻛﻤﻴﺘﻪ ﺍﻗﺪﺍﻡ ﺟﻬﺎﻧﻰ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺍﻧﺴﻮﺍ ژﻳﺮﻭ ﺑﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﺰﻣﺎﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺧﺎﻧﻢ ﺍﻓﺨﻤﻰ‬
‫ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﻢ‪.‬ﺑﺎ ﺷﻮﺭ ﻭ ﺷﻮﻕ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﻦ ﻛﻼﻡ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺒﻰ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺩﻣﻮﻛﺮﺍﺳﻰ)‪ 1999‬ﺗﺎ ‪ ،(2010‬ﻟﻴﮓ‬ ‫ﻭﺯﻳﺮ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﻓﺮﺍﻧﺴﻪ ﺑﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭﺭﻩ ﻭﺯﺍﺭﺕ‬
‫ﻭﺣﺲﺑﺎﻏﭽﻪﺍﻧﮕﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﻣﻰﺷﻨﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﮔﻞ ﺍﺯ ﮔﻠﺶ ﻣﻰﺷﻜﻔﺪ ﻭ ﻣﻰﺧﻨﺪﺩ‪ .‬ﻟﺤﻈﺎﺕ ﺧﻨﺪﻩ ﺍﻭ ﺩﻳﺪﻧﻰﺗﺮﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎﻧﻰ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺣﻘﻮﻕ ﺑﺸﺮ)‪ 2000‬ﺗﺎ ‪،(2006‬‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻨﺎﺯ ﺍﻓﺨﻤﻰ ﻗﻮﻩ ﻣﻘﻨﻨﻪ ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻥ ﺣﻖ ﺑﺮﺍﺑﺮ‬
‫ﭼﻴﺰﻯﻣﺠﺮﺩﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻧﺰﻭﺍﻯﺑﺎﻏﭽﻪ‬ ‫ﺛﺎﻧﻴﻪﻫﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻫﻤﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﻟﺤﻈﻪﺍﻯ ﺳﺎﻛﺖ ﻣﻰﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﭼﺸﻢ ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺻﻨﺪﻭﻕ ﺟﻬﺎﻧﻰ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ)‪ 1998‬ﺗﺎ ‪(2007‬‬ ‫ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﻃﻼﻕ‪ ،‬ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺣﺪﺍﻗﻞ ﺳﻦ ﺩﺧﺘﺮﺍﻥ‬
‫ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥﻫﺎﻯ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﺍﻭ ﻣﻰﺩﻭﺯﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺗﻜﻪ ﺍﻟﻤﺎﺱ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻫﺎﻧﺶ ﻣﻰﺩﺭﺧﺸﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻭ ﺟﻨﺴﻴﺖ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺎﺭ )‪ 2003‬ﺗﺎ‪ (2008‬ﺍﺷﺎﺭﻩ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ‪ ،‬ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ ﺍﺯ ﺍﺷﺘﻐﺎﻝ ﻣﺠﺪﺩ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ‬
‫ﭘﻮﺳﻴﺪﻩﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﻮدزﻧﯽ ﺷﺎﯾﻊﺗﺮﯾﻦ آﺳﯿﺐ دوره‬ ‫ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥﻫﺎ ﻧﻘﺶ ﻣﻬﻤﻰ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻳﺒﺎﻳﻰ ﭼﻬﺮﻩ ﻣﺎ ﺧﺼﻮﺻﺎ ﺩﺭﺣﻴﻦ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﺧﻨﺪﻳﺪﻥ‬ ‫ﺷﺶ ﮐﺪ‬
‫ﻧﻮﺟﻮاﻧﯽ اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥﻫﺎﻯ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺯﻳﺒﺎ ﻭ ﻟﺒﺨﻨﺪﻣﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻰ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺍﻣﺎ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﺯﺭﺩ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺯﻳﺒﺎ ﺧﻼﻑ ﺁﻥ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺎﻝ‪ ،‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﺳﻔﻴﺪﻯ‬

‫ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺭﺍﻩﻫﺎﻯ ﻓﺮﺍﻭﺍﻧﻰ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺧﺸﺎﻥ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮای ﮐﺸﻒ ﯾﮏ راﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﯿمار‬
‫ﻣﺮﻭﺍﺭﻳﺪﻫﺎﻯ ﻛﺎﺷﺘﻪ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻫﺎﻥ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ‪.‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺍﺩ ﺧﻮﺭﺍﻛﻰ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺗﺎﻥ‬

‫ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻣﺮﻭﺍﺭﻳﺪﻯ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪:‬ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﺗﻮﺕﻓﺮﻧﮕﻰ‪،‬‬

‫ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻫﻴﻢ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ‬ ‫‪-8‬ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺳﻮء ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺟﺴﻤﻰ‪،‬‬ ‫ﻛﺮﻓﺲ ﻭ ﺳﻴﺐ ﺑﺨﻮﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺩﺍﺧﻠﻰ ﭘﻮﺳﺖ ﻣﻮﺯ ﺳﺮﺷﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ ﭘﺘﺎﺳﻴﻢ‪،‬‬ ‫ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺩﺭ ﮔﺬﺷﺘﻪ ﻓﺮﻭ ﺭﻳﺨﺘﻪ ﺑﻨﺎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ .‬ﺧﻴﻠﻰ ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺴﻰ ﻭ ﻛﻼﻣﻰ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ‬ ‫‪-2‬ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻳﻚ‬
‫ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﺑﺎ ﻛﻰ ﻭ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﻴﺰﻳﻢ‪ ،‬ﻣﻨﮕﻨﺰ ﻭ ﺳﺎﻳﺮ ﻣﻮﺍﺩ ﻣﻌﺪﻧﻰ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻣﻮﺯ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻮﺳﺖ ﺑﻜﻨﻴﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻳﺒﻜﺎﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻓﺮﻳﺒﻜﺎﺭﻯ ﺣﺘﻰ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺁﻳﺎ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﻳﻚ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ‬
‫ﻣﻄﺮﺡ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ‬ ‫‪-9‬ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﻛﺸﻰ ﻳﺎ‬ ‫ﻗﺪﻳﻤﻰ ﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﮔﻨﺎﻩ ﺑﺸﺮ ﻳﻌﻨﻰ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺩﺭﻭﻏﮕﻮ ‪ ،‬ﺣﺴﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻛﺴﻰ ‪ ،‬ﺷﻬﺎ ﻣﺖ ﻭ ﺟﺮ ﺃ ﺕ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺴﺘﮕﺎﻥ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ‬ ‫ﻭ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺩﺍﺧﻠﻰﺍﺵ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭﻯ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥﻫﺎﻳﺘﺎﻥ ﺑﻤﺎﻟﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﻮﺍﺩ‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮﻧﺎﻙ ﺗﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻴﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻳﺎ ﻣﻌﺘﺎﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺤﻤﻞ‬
‫ﻣﻴﺨﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺳﺒﻚ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺘﻬﻰ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﻓﺮﻳﺒﻜﺎﺭﻯ ﻳﻚ ﮔﻮﻧﻪ‬
‫ﺷﺪﻥ ﻭ ﺧﺎﻟﻰ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﭘﻰ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪.‬‬ ‫‪-10‬ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺁﻣﺪﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺗﻤﺎﻳﻼﺕ ﺟﻨﺴﻰ‬ ‫ﺩﺭﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻣﻔﻴﺪ ﻣﻮﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺟﺬﺏ ﻣﻴﻨﺎﻯ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥﻫﺎﻳﺘﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩﺧﻮﺍﻫﻰ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﺨﺼﻮﺹ ﺍﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﻛﺮﺩ؟‬
‫ﺍﻣﺎ ﻣﻬﻤﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎ‬ ‫‪-11‬ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﻧﮋﺍﺩﻯ‪ ،‬ﻣﻠﻴﺘﻰ‪،‬‬ ‫ﭼﻴﺰ ﺧﻮﺑﻰ ﻣﻰﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺳﻔﻴﺪ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺁﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ‬ ‫ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎ ﭘﺬﻳﺮﺷﺶ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﻩ‬
‫ﻛﺴﻰ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻰﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺮﻳﺎﻥ ﻓﺮﻳﺒﻜﺎﺭﻯ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﻳﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺎﺩﮔﻰ‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﻭ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ‬ ‫ﻣﺬﻫﺒﻰ ﻭ ﺗﺒﻌﻴﺾ ﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺩﺭ ﻫﻤﻪ ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ ﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺯﻳﺮﺍ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﺳﻌﻰ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻭ‬
‫ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻰ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻣﺤﺾ‬ ‫‪-12‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﭘﺎﺋﻴﻦ‬ ‫ﺿﺮﺏ ﻭ ﺁﺳﻴﺐ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻫﺎﻥ ﺑﺘﺮﺍﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﭼﻮﻥ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻗﺪﺍﻡ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ‬ ‫‪-13‬ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻃﺮﺩ ﺍﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻰ ﻳﺎ ﻃﺮﺩ‬ ‫ﺩﻫﻨﺪﻩ ﺣﺲ ﺍﺩﺍﻣﻪ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ‬
‫ﺑﺎ ﻛﺴﻰ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ‬
‫ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺘﻰ ﻭ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻰ ﻓﻜﺮﻯ ﺷﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ‬ ‫ﻭ ﻣﻴﻞ ﻭ ﺍﺷﺘﻴﺎﻕ ﺑﻪ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﺎ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺎﻝ‪ ،‬ﺣﺴﺎﺩﺕ ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻯ ﻣﻰ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺁﺳﻴﺐ ﻭ ﺻﺪﻣﻪ ﺯﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬
‫ﻋﻼﺋﻢﭘﻴﺶﺑﻴﻨﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ‪:‬‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺩ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻞ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺳﺮﻛﻮﺏ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ‪ ،‬ﻓﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪.‬‬
‫ﭘﻴﺶﺑﻴﻨﻰ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻳﺎ ﻓﺮﺩﻯ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﺧﻮﺭﺩﮔﻰ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺳﺘﺮﺱ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻘﺎﺕ ﺩﺭ ‪ UK‬ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻴﺪﻫﺪ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ ﻳﺎ ﺧﻴﺮ ﺧﻴﻠﻰ‬ ‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻌﺎﻳﺐ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﻄﻌﺎ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺗﺘﺎﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻏﻠﺐ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻮﻉ ﺍﺯ ﺣﺴﺎﺩﺕ ﺑﻰ ﺟﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ‪ 12‬ﻧﻮﺟﻮﺍﻥ ‪ 1‬ﻧﻔﺮ ﻣﺮﺗﻜﺐ‬

‫ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﻳﻢ‪ .‬ﺷﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻭ ﻛﻤﻰ ﺑﻰ ﺣﻮﺻﻠﻪ ﻭ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﻧﻤﻰ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻯ ﺑﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻃﺮﻑ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻣﻰ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﻣﻴﺸﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺁﻣﺎﺭ ﺩﺧﺘﺮﻫﺎ ‪4‬‬

‫ﺑﺮﺍﺑﺮ ﭘﺴﺮﻫﺎﺳﺖ‪» .‬ﺗﻮﻟﻴﺴﺎ« ﻳﻜﻰ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﮔﻴﺮﻯ‬ ‫ﻭ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﻓﺮﻳﺐ ﺯﺩﻥ ﺧﻮﺩﺵ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﺪﺧﻮ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻳﺎ ﺷﺎﻳﺪ ﺣﻮﺍﺱ ﭘﺮﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ‬
‫ﺟﺪﻯ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺗﺮﻙ ﺍﻭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﻄﻌﺎ ﺷﺎﻧﺲ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻯ‬ ‫ﻭ ﻗﻮﻝ ﻭ ﻗﺮﺍﺭﻫﺎﻯ ﮔﺬﺷﺘﻪ ﺭﺍ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ‬
‫ﻣﺒﺘﻼﻳﺎﻥ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪﻩ ﻭ ﺩﺍﻭﺭ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺷﺎﻳﺪ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺟﺪﻯ ﺗﺮ‬
‫ﭘﺮﻃﺮﻓﺪﺍﺭ ﻧﻮﺟﻮﺍﻧﺎﻥ ﺑﻨﺎﻡ )‪X-Fac-‬‬ ‫‪-6‬ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻌﺘﺎﺩ‬ ‫ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﻫﻢ ﻣﻰ ﺩﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺗﺎﻥ ﺁﻧﻘﺪﺭ ﻫﻢ‬
‫‪ (tor‬ﺩﺭ ﺑﺮﻳﺘﺎﻧﻴﺎ‪ ،‬ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ‬ ‫‪ -3‬ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺷﻨﺎﻡ‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻰ ﺭﺳﺪ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻰ ﺩﻫﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺍﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﺳﺨﻴﻒ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﻳﺪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﺒﻮﻝ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ‬
‫ﮔﺬﺷﺘﻪ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺑﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻣﻴﮕﻮﻳﺪ‪:‬‬ ‫ﺻﺪﺍﻳﺘﺎﻥ ﻣﻰ ﺯﻧﺪ ﻳﺎ ﺍﻏﻠﺐ ﺳﺮ ﺷﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﻤﻮﻡ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺯﻧﮓ‬
‫ﻓﺮﻳﺎﺩ ﻣﻰ ﻛﺸﺪ ﻭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺣﻤﻼﺕ‬
‫»ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻯ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ‬ ‫ﻛﻼﻣﻰ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﻣﻰ ﺩﻫﺪ‪ ،‬ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺎﺩﻳﺪﻩ ﻣﻰ ﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﻓﺮﻗﻰ ﻧﻤﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺭﺳﻰ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﺎﻟﻘﻮﻩ ﻣﺮﻳﺾ ﺍﺻﻼ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺍﻭﺍﻳﻞ ﺟﻮﺍﻧﻰ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺩﺭ ﻓﻀﺎﻯ ﻋﻤﻮﻣﻰ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﻴﻦ‬ ‫ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺣﻔﻆ ﺳﻼﻣﺖ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ‪ .‬ﻓﺤﺎﺷﻰ ﭼﻴﺰﻯ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ‬ ‫ﺭﻭﺍﻧﻰ ﻭ ﻋﺎﻃﻔﻰ ﺿﺮﻭﺭﻯ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻨﺠﺎ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻠﻪ‬

‫ﺑﺎ ﻣﺴﺎﺋﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ‬

‫ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﺋﻰ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺭﻧﺞ ﻣﻰ‬

‫ﺑﺮﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩ ﻏﻢ ﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ ﺍﺳﺖ«‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﻪ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﻴﻤﺎﺭ ﺍﺷﺎﺭﻩ ﻟﺤﻈﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻟﺤﻈﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺘﻘﺎﺩﺍﺕ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ﻭ‬

‫ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﻣﻌﻤﻮﻻً ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺭﻫﺎﺋﻰ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺭﺩ‬ ‫ﻟﮕﺪﻣﺎﻝ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪:‬‬

‫ﻓﻜﺮﻯ ﻧﺎﺷﻰ ﺍﺯ ﻓﺸﺎﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻭ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻫﺎ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬ ‫‪-1‬ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻴﻤﺎﺭﮔﻮﻧﻪ‬
‫ﺑﺮﻋﻜﺲ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ‬ ‫ﺩﺭﻭﻍﻣﻰﮔﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ ﺍﻭ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺸﻒ‬
‫ﺧﻴﻠﻰﻫﺎ ﭼﻮﻥ ﻧﻤﻴﺪﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻧﻪ ﻓﻘﻂ ﻳﻜﺒﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭ ﺑﻠﻜﻪ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻯ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ ﻫﺎﻳﺶ ﭘﻰ ﻣﻰ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺭﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺴﻜﻴﻦ ﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ‬ ‫‪ -4‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺸﺮﻭﻁ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻭ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺑﺎﺭ‬
‫ﻫﻴﭻ ﻛﺲ ﻧﺒﺎﻳﺪ ﻣﺜﻞ ﻳﻚ ﻗﺎﺏ ﺩﺳﺘﻤﺎﻝ‬ ‫ﺩﺭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺷﺴﺘﻦ ﻇﺮﻓﻬﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻠﻮﻑ ﺯﺩﻩ‬
‫ﺧﻼﺹ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻴﻜﻨﻨﺪ ﺭﺍﻫﻜﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﻛﺜﻴﻒ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻯ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻰ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﻣﺎ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ ﺩﺭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﻳﻚ ﻓﺮﻳﺐ‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺍﻭ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻳﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺰﺭگ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻧﺪﺍﻥ‬
‫ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻯ ﻏﻴﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺴﻰ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻬﺮﺑﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪،‬‬ ‫ﻫﺎﻯ ﻏﻮﻝ ﭘﻴﻜﺮﺵ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﺮﻭ‬
‫ﺣﺘﻤﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺘﻮﻗﻒ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﺮﺗﻜﺐ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﻣﺜﺎﻝ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﭘﺴﺮﺗﺎﻥ‬
‫ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ ﻭ ﺁﺧﺮﻳﻦ ﻭ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﻪ ﻣﻮﺍﺩ ﻣﺨﺪﺭ ﻳﺎ ﺍﻟﻜﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺳﻮء‬ ‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺍﻯ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺸﺮﻭﻁ ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻳﻚ ﻛﻨﻔﺮﺍﻧﺲ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺑﻌﻀﻰ ﻫﺎ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﺭﺍﻫﻰ‬ ‫ﻣﺼﺮﻑ ﻣﻮﺍﺩ ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺍﺳﺘﻪ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺷﻤﺎ‬

‫ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻳﻚ ﻋﻼﻣﺖ ﻣﻰ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﺭﻳﺨﺘﻪ ﻣﻴﺸﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﭼﻪ ﺣﺲ‬ ‫ﺭﻓﺎﻩ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺳﻼﻣﺖ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﻛﻨﺘﺮﻝ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ‬

‫ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﻣﻌﻤﻮﻻً ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻨﻔﻰ‪ ،‬ﺑﻌﻀﻰ ﺍﻭﻗﺎﺕ‬ ‫ﺟﺴﻤﻰ ﻭ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﻰ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻬﺪﻳﺪ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺟﺪﻯ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ‬

‫ﺧﻮﺩﺷﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻰﭘﻮﺷﺎﻧﻨﺪ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎ ﻛﺴﻰ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻣﻴﻜﻨﺪ‪.‬ﺧﻴﻠﻰﺍﺯﻣﺒﺘﻼﻳﺎﻥﻣﻌﺘﻘﺪﻧﺪ‬

‫ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻴﻜﻪ ﻫﻮﺍ ﮔﺮﻡ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪ .‬ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻣﻴﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫ﻛﺎﺭﻯ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺮ ﻣﻰ ﺑﺮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻴﻜﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭ ﻋﻮﺽ ﺑﺮﺁﻭﺭﺩﻩ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺧﻮﺍﺳﺘﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﺗﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺮﻙ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻫﻴﭻ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﺍﻳﻦ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺑﺤﺮﺍﻧﻰ ﻧﺘﻮﺍﻧﺴﺘﻪ‬

‫ﻣﺨﻔﻴﺎﻧﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ‬ ‫ﻳﻚ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ ﻣﻬﻤﺎﻧﻰ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﺶ ﻣﺸﺮﻭﺏ ﻫﺎ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺩﻭ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺲ ﻧﺒﺎﻳﺪ ﻣﺠﺒﻮﺭ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺤﻤﻞ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻧﺪ ﻛﺴﻰ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺘﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﺑﺎ‬

‫ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻋﻼﺋﻢ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭﻯ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺟﻮﺍﺏ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺷﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺰ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﺮﺩ ﻣﻌﺘﺎﺩ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻋﺎﺷﻘﺎﻧﻪ ﻭ ﻭﻓﺎﺩﺍﺭ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻌﻬﺪﺍﺕ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﺧﻮﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﻳﺎ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺧﺘﺮﺗﺎﻥ‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻰ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻋﻼﻡ ﮔﺮﻭﻩ ﻫﺎﺋﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺧﻮﺷﺒﺨﺘﻰ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺟﻠﺐ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ ﺍﺯ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ‬
‫ﺷﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻨﺰﻭﻯ ﻭ ﻛﻨﺎﺭﻩ ﮔﻴﺮ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻰ‪ ،‬ﺗﻤﺎﺱ ﺑﺎ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ ﺍﺵ ﻭ ﺍﺭﺍﺋﻪ ﺷﺎﻳﻊ ﺗﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ :‬ﻧﻮﺟﻮﺍﻧﺎﻧﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮﺍﺭﻯ ﺗﻌﺎﺩﻝ ﺩﺭ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻫﻤﻴﺖ‬ ‫ﺍﻯ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻯ ﺑﺮﺧﻮﺭﺩﺍﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﻧﺒﺎﻳﺪ ﻭﺯﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ‬
‫‪ ،‬ﺁﺭﺍﻡ ﻭ ﺳﺎﻛﺖ‪ ،‬ﻇﺎﻫﺮ ﺷﺴﺘﻪ ﻭ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﺸﻮﺭﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﺪ ﻣﺜﺒﺘﻰ‬ ‫ﮔﺰﻳﻨﻪ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺒﺨﺸﻰ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺁﺩﻡ‬ ‫ﺗﺮﺍﺯﻭﻯ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻳﻚ ﻃﺮﻑ ﺳﻨﮕﻴﻨﻰ‬ ‫ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺯﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ ﻣﻰ ﮔﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ‬
‫ﺑﺪﻯ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻭ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺎ ﺁﺧﺮ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻫﻰ‬ ‫ﻫﺎﻳﺶ ﺩﺍﻣﻨﻪ ﺩﺍﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺻﺒﺮ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ‬
‫ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻰﺍﻧﺮژﻯ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺩﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺆﺍﻝ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺟﻮﺍﺏ ﺩﻫﺪ ﻭ ﺭﻭﻯ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﻭ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﺠﻨﺲ‬ ‫ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﺎﺩﻯ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﻨﻴﺖ ﻭ ﺭﻓﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﺪ ﭼﻮﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻣﻜﺎﻥ ﭘﺬﻳﺮ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﮔﺮﺍﻫﺎ‪ ،‬ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺟﻨﺴﻴﺘﻰ ﻫﺎ‪ ،‬ﺩﺧﺘﺮﺍﻥ‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﻻﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺳﻄﺢ ﺍﻭﻟﻮﻳﺖ ﻫﺎﻯ‬ ‫‪-5‬ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺣﺴﻮﺩ‬ ‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﺳﺎﺱ ﺑﺴﺘﺮﻯ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ‬
‫ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺭﻭﺵ ﻗﺎﻧﻊ‬ ‫ﻣﻴﺸﻮﻧﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺁﺳﻴﺎﺋﻰ‪ ،‬ﻧﻮﺟﻮﺍﻧﺎﻥ ﻣﺒﺘﻼ ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﮔﺎﻫﻰ ﺍﻭﻗﺎﺕ ﻳﻚ ﻛﻤﻰ ﺣﺴﺎﺩﺕ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﻋﺪﻩﺍﻯ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺒﺘﻼﻳﺎﻥ ﻣﻴﮕﻮﻳﻨﺪ‪ :‬ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩﺍﻯ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺍﺧﺘﻴﺎﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻯ ‪.‬‬

‫»ﻣﺸﻜﻞ‪ ،‬ﺧﻴﻠﻰ ﻛﻼﻓﻪﺍﻡ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺩﻫﺪ‪ .‬ﻫﻤﭽﻨﻴﻦ ﺧﻴﻠﻰ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ‬

‫ﺑﻮﺩ‪،‬ﭼﻴﺰﻯ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻧﻢ ﺑﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻏﻮﻏﺎﺋﻰ ﻛﻪ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﺸﻮﺭﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﻳﻊ ﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺩﺭﺩﻫﺎﻯ ﻓﻜﺮﻯ‬
‫ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ‪:‬‬
‫ﺑﻮﺩ ﭼﻴﺰﻯ ﻣﺜﻞ ﺧﻮﺭﻩ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ ﭼﺮﺍ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﻰ‬
‫‪-1‬ﺗﻤﺴﺨﺮ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺪﺭﺳﻪ‬
‫ﻓﻜﺮﻡ ﺭﻭ ﻣﻴﺨﻮﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻩ ﭼﺎﺭﻩﺍﻯ ﺟﺰ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ ﺩﺍﺩﻩ ﺍﻳﺪ‬ ‫‪ -2‬ﻋﺪﻡ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺑﺎ ﻭﺍﻟﺪﻳﻦ ﻭ‬
‫ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺍﻋﻀﺎﻯ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ ) ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻢ‪ ،‬ﻛﺴﻰ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﺯ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻭ ﺑﮕﻮﺋﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻭﺍﻟﺪﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻧﺪ(‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﭼﻪ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻰ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﮔﻔﺖ؟‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻫﺎﺵ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻴﺎﻥ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻡ«‪.‬‬ ‫‪-3‬ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﺿﻄﺮﺍﺏ ‪،‬ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻰ ﻭ‬
‫ﻓﺮﺩﻯ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻭ‬ ‫ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﺠﺎﺋﻴﻜﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﻣﻘﺒﻮﻟﻴﺖ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺘﺮﺱ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺗﻜﺎﻟﻴﻒ ﻣﺪﺭﺳﻪ‬
‫ﻣﺸﻮﺭﺕ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻣﻴﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ‬ ‫ﺍﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻰ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﻌﻤﻮﻻً ﺍﻳﻨﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﺍﻟﺪﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﭽﻪ ﻫﺎ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎﺗﺸﺎﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﻭ ﺍﻣﺘﺤﺎﻥ‬
‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺣﺎﻝ‬ ‫ﻭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥ ﻗﻄﻊ ﻣﻴﺸﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺣﺲ‬ ‫‪-4‬ﺣﺲﺗﻨﻬﺎﺋﻰﻭﮔﻮﺷﻪﮔﻴﺮﻯﻭﺍﻧﺰﻭﺍ‬
‫ﺷﺎﻳﺪ ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻋﻰ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ‬ ‫»ﺑﺎﺍﺭﺯﺵ« ﻳﺎ »ﻛﺴﻰ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ« ﺍﺯ‬ ‫‪-5‬ﻃﻼﻕ ﻭﺍﻟﺪﻳﻦ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ‬
‫ﺑﻌﻀﻰ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺷﻮﻛﻪ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺩﺳﺖ ﻣﻴﺪﻫﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻋﺰﻳﺰﻯ‬
‫‪-6‬ﺑﺎﺭﺩﺍﺭﻯ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺍﺳﺘﻪ‬
‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺷﻴﻮﻩ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺍﻋﻀﺎﻯ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭﻛﻨﺎﻥ ﻣﺪﺭﺳﻪ‬ ‫‪-7‬ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﺩﺭﺩﻧﺎﻙ ﺳﻮءﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺩﺭ‬

‫ﻭ ﻣﺸﺎﻭﺭﻳﻦ ﻣﺘﺨﺼﺺ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺤﺮﺍﻥ‪،‬‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺩﺯﻧﻰ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪﺍﻳﺪ؟‬ ‫ﺩﻭﺭﺍﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻛﻰ‬

‫ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﻭ ﺳﺨﺘﻰ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺮﺍﺣﻞ ﺑﻌﺪﻯ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺮﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺻﻔﺤﻪ )‪ (Health Family & Wellbeing‬ﺩﺭ ﻓﻴﺴﺒﻮﻙ‬