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‫ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺷﺎﺧﺺ‬ ‫دروز‬

‫ﻋﻠﻰ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ‬

‫ﻋﻠﻰ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭ ‪ 26‬ﺩﺳﺎﻣﺒﺮ ‪ 1926‬ﺩﺭ‬

‫ﺗﻬﺮﺍﻥ ﻣﺘﻮﻟﺪ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﻓﻴﺰﻳﻜﺪﺍﻥ ﻭ‬

‫ﻣﺨﺘﺮﻉ ﺍﻳﺮﺍﻧﻰ‪-‬ﺁﻣﺮﻳﻜﺎﻳﻰ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﮕﺎﻩ‬
‫ﺍﻡ‪.‬ﺁﻯ‪.‬ﺗﻰ‪ (MIT) .‬ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﺨﺶ ﻋﻤﺪﻩ‬

‫ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺘﻬﺎﻯ ﺍﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻣﻴﻨﻪ ﻓﻴﺰﻳﻚ ﻛﻮﺁﻧﺘﻮﻡ‬

‫ﻭ ﻃﻴﻒ ﺷﻨﺎﺳﻰ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ‬

‫‪ 1960‬ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﻭﻳﻠﻴﺎﻡ ﺑِ ِﻨﺖ »ﮔﺎﺯ ﻟﻴﺰﺭ«‬
‫)‪ (Gas Laser‬ﺭﺍ ﺍﺧﺘﺮﺍﻉ ﻛﺮﺩ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ‬

‫‪ 2007‬ﺭﻭﺯﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﮔﺎﺭﺩﻳﻦ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ‬

‫ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻳﻜﻰ ﺍﺯ »‪ 100‬ﻧﺎﺑﻐﻪ ﺑﺮﺗﺮ ﺯﻧﺪﻩ«‬

‫ﻧﺎﻣﮕﺬﺍﺭﻯ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﻋﻠﻰ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻬﺮﺍﻥ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ ﺍﻯ‬

‫ﺍﻫﻞ ﺗﺒﺮﻳﺰ ﻣﺘﻮﻟﺪ ﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺑﻴﺮﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺁﻋﺰ ﻛﺮﺩ‪ .‬ﻭﻯ ﭘﺲ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﻦ ﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﻩ‬ ‫ﺗﻼﺵ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻢ ﻭ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﺮ ﻧﻤﻰ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ‬
‫ﺍﻟﺒﺮﺯ ﻓﺎﺭﻍ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﺼﻴﻞ ﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ﮔﻴﺮﻯ ﻛﺎﻣﻼ ﺩﻗﻴﻖ ﺳﺮﻋﺖ ﻧﻮﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺳﺎﺧﺖ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻪ ﺧﺴﺘﻪ ﻭ ﺩﻟﻤﺮﺩﻩ ﮔﺸﺘﻪ ﭘﻨﺪﺍﺭﻡ‬
‫‪ 1954‬ﺗﺰ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﮕﺎﻩ ﻛﻠﻤﺒﻴﺎ ﺯﻳﺮ‬
‫ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﻦ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ‪ 1961‬ﻛﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ ﭼﺎﺭﻟﺰ ﺗﺎﻭﻧﺰ )‪(Charles Townes‬‬ ‫ﻋﻠﺖ ﻣﻬﻢ ﮔﺮﺳﻨﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺍ ﭼﻪ ﻏﻢ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻔﺘﮕﺎﻥ ﺧﺒﺮ ﻧﺮﺳﺪ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻡ‪.‬ﺁﻯ‪.‬ﺗﻰ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﺍﺳﺘﺎﺩ‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺳﭙﻴﺪﻩ ﻯ ﺻﺒﺢ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻴﺪﺍﺭﻡ‬
‫ﻧﻮﺷﺖ ﻭ ﻣﺪﺭﻙ ﺩﻛﺘﺮﺍﻯ ﻓﻴﺰﻳﻚ ﺭﺍ ﻓﻴﺰﻳﻚ ﺁﻏﺎﺯ ﻛﺮﺩ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺳﺎﻝ ‪ 1964‬ﺗﺎ‬
‫ﺩﺭﻳﺎﻓﺖ ﻛﺮﺩ‪ .‬ﻋﻠﻰ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ‪ 1955‬ﻛﻨﻮﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﺍﺳﺘﺎﺩ » ‪Francis‬‬ ‫ﺷﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻡ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﭼﻮ ﺧﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺻﻔﺎﻯ ﺛﺒﺎﺕ ﻣﺎ ﺑﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺁﺯﻣﺎﻳﺸﮕﺎﻩ ﺍﺷﻌﻪ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺎﻫﻰ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ‪Wright Davis Professor‬‬ ‫ﮔﻤﺎﻥ ﻣﺒﺮ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻮ ﺧﺎﺭﺍ‪ ،‬ﺯ ﺗﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻴﺰﺍﺭﻡ‬
‫ﺗﺎ ﻛﻨﻮﻥ ﺩﻗﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻳﺪ ﭼﺮﺍ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻡ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﻪ ﺩﭼﺎﺭ ﮔﺮﺳﻨﮕﻰ‬
‫ﻣﻦ ﺁﻥ ﻧﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺯ ﻧﻴﻤﻪ‪ ،‬ﺯ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺑﺮﮔﺮﺩﻡ‬
‫‪ «Emeritus‬ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻭ ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺪﺭﻙ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺩﻛﺘﺮﺍ ﻛﺴﺐ ﻛﺮﺩ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺎﻭﻧﺰ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﻣﻬﻤﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻋﻠﺖ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﺎﺭﺿﻪ ﭼﻴﺴﺖ؟ ﺍﺯ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻓﻴﺰﻳﻜﻰ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﯾﺪون ﻓﺮﺧﺰاد‬ ‫ﭼﻨﺎﻥ ﺭﻭﻡ ﻛﻪ ﻏﺰﻟﺨﻮﺍﻥ ﺷﻮﻯ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﺪﺍﺭﻡ‬
‫ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻘﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻣﻴﻨﻪ »ﺍﻟﻜﺘﺮﻭﻧﻴﻚ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ ﺭﻭﻯ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻖ ﺳﺎﻋﺖ ﺍﺗﻤﻰ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻰ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺟﺴﻤﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺟﺮﻡ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﺟﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻳﻌﻨﻰ =‪p‬‬
‫ﻧﻮﺭ« ﺍﺩﺍﻣﻪ ﺩﺍﺩ‪ .‬ﺧﺪﻣﺎﺕ ﺍﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻣﻴﻨﻪ‬ ‫ﻋﻠﻰ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻭﺍﻳﻞ ﺩﻫﻪ ‪ 1960‬ﺩﺭ‬ ‫‪. m*v‬ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻣﻮﻟﻜﻮﻝ ﻫﺎﻳﻰ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻢ ﻭﺯﻧﻰ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﭼﻨﺪ ﻛﻴﻠﻮﺩﺍﻟﺘﻮﻥ‬ ‫ﻣﺠﻴﺰ ﺷﻴﺦ ﻧﮕﻔﺘﻴﻢ ﻭ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻧﺸﺪﻡ‬
‫»ﻧﺎﻧﻮﻓﻮﺗﻮﻧﻴﻚ« )‪(Nanophotonics‬‬ ‫ﺩﺍﻧﺸﮕﺎﻩ ﺍﻡ‪ .‬ﺁﻯ‪ .‬ﺗﻰ‪ .‬ﭘﺮﻭژﻩ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻘﻰ ﺧﻮﺩ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺎﻓﺘﻰ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻮﺗﺎﻫﻰ ﭼﻨﺪ ﻣﻴﻜﺮﻭﺁﻧﮕﺴﺘﺮﻭﻡ ﺟﺎﺑﻪ ﺟﺎ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﭼﻨﺪﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﭼﺮﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻂ ﺗﻤﻜﻴﻦ ﺷﻴﺦ ﺑﻴﺰﺍﺭﻡ‬
‫ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﺑﻪ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺘﻬﺎﻳﻰ ﺩﺭ ﺟﻬﺖ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺑﺮ ﮔﺴﺘﺮﺵ ﺭﻭﺷﻬﺎﻯ ﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﻩ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﻋﺖ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺗﻔﺎﻭﺕ ﺷﮕﺮﻓﻰ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﺧﻮﻧﺮﺳﺎﻧﻰ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻯ‬
‫ﮔﻴﺮﻯ ﻓﺮﻛﺎﻧﺴﻬﺎﻯ ﻣﺎﻳﻜﺮﻭﻭﻳﻮ ﺑﻪﺍﻳﻨﻔﺮﺍﺭﺩ‬ ‫ﻣﻐﺰ ﺭﺥ ﻧﻤﻰ ﺩﻫﺪ ﻓﻘﻂ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻫﺎ ﺳﺎﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﻳﺎﻓﺘﻪ ﺗﺮ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻧﺪﻛﻰ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ‬
‫ﺁﻧﺘﻦ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻘﻴﺎﺱ ﻧﺎﻧﻮ ﺷﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺩﺭ ﺗﺒﺎﺩﻝ ﻧﺮﻭﺗﺮﺍﻧﺴﻤﻴﺘﺮﻫﺎ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺳﻠﻮﻝ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺭﺥ ﻣﻰ ﺩﻫﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺎﻝ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻠﺖ ﻛﻢ‬

‫ﻋﺪم تمﺎﯾﻞ ﺑﻪ ﮔﺬاﺷتن ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ازدواج!‬ ‫ﻭﺯﻥ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﻧﺮﻭﺗﺮﺍﻧﺴﻤﻴﺘﺮﻫﺎ ﻭ ﻛﻮﺗﺎﻩ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﻓﺎﺻﻠﻪ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺳﻠﻮﻝ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻋﺼﺒﻰ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﺯ ﻫﻢ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺘﺎ‬ ‫ﭼﻄﻮر راﺑﻄﻪ ﺗﺎن را ﺑﯿﺸﱰ از ﻓﯿﺲ‬
‫ﺑﻴﻼﻥ ﻭ ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻉ ﺍﻧﺮژﻯ ﻣﺼﺮﻑ ﺷﺪﻩ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ‪ 4‬ﻛﻴﻠﻮﻛﺎﻟﺮﻯ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺯﺍﻯ ﺩﻭ ﺳﺎﻋﺖ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﻪ ﻋﻤﻴﻖ‬ ‫ﺑﻮک دوﺳﺖ داﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﯿﺪ‬
‫ﻣﻰ ﺭﺳﺪ! ﻳﺎﺩﻣﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺣﺒﻪ ﻗﻨﺪ ‪ 4‬ﻛﻴﻠﻮﻛﺎﻟﺮﻯ ﺍﻧﺮژﻯ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ! ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺪﺍﻥ ﻣﻌﻨﻰ‬

‫ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻓﻜﺮﻯ ﻭ ﺷﻐﻞ ﻫﺎﻳﻰ ﻛﻪ ﻓﻜﺮﻯ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺮژﻯ‬

‫ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻯ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﻪ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻣﻐﺰ ﺍﺯ ﻟﺬﺕ ﺁﺯﺍﺩﻯ ﻛﻪ ﻗﺒﻼ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ‬

‫ﻣﺤﺮﻭﻡ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻣﺠﺒﻮﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺘﻰ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻴﻠﻰ ﺑﻪ ﺫﺍﻳﻘﻪ‬

‫ﺍﺵ ﺧﻮﺵ ﻧﻤﻰ ﺁﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺧﻼء ﻟﺬﺗﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺁﻣﺪﻩ‪ ،‬ﻣﻐﺰ ﺩﺭ‬ ‫‪ 10‬ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺯﻭﺝ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺧﻮﺷﺒﺨﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻳﻚ ﺍﻗﺪﺍﻡ ﺳﺎﺯﺷﻰ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﺣﺲ ﮔﺮﺳﻨﮕﻰ‪ ،‬ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻄﻰ ﭘﺪﻳﺪ ﻣﻰ‬

‫ﭼﺮﺍ ﺑﺮﺧﻰ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ ﻓﺮﺩ ﺳﺮﺍﻍ ﻏﺬﺍ ﻭ ﻣﺨﺼﻮﺻﺎ ﺷﻴﺮﻳﻨﻰ ﺑﺮﻭﺩ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﺮ ﻓﺘﺎ ﺭ ﻯ ﺁﻭﺭﺩ‬ ‫ﺻﻤﻴﻤﺖ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ‬ ‫‪-1‬ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺨﺘﺨﻮﺍﺏ‬
‫ﺣﺎﺿﺮ ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻛﺴﺐ ﺷﻴﺮﻳﻨﻰ‪ ،‬ﺧﻼ ﭘﺪﻳﺪ ﺁﻣﺪﻩ ﻧﺎﺷﻰ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺎ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺭﺍ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺷﻰ ﻧﻤﻰ ﺳﭙﺎﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻣﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﺭﻭﻧﺪ‬
‫ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﻢ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻫﻢ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻴﺎﺑﺎﻥ ﻗﺪﻡ ﻣﻰ ﺯﻧﻴﺪ ﺩﺳﺖ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺍﺟﺒﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺒﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ‬ ‫ﻫﺎﻯ ﻫﻤﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺭﺍ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﺁﻳﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﻭﺍﺭﺩ‬
‫ﮔﺬﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻧﮕﺸﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺑﻮﺩﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﺗﺎﻕ ﻧﺸﻴﻤﻦ‬
‫ﻳﺎﺩ ﺑﻴﺎﻭﺭﻳﺪ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﻦ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺩﻳﺪﺍﺭﺗﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺗﻠﻮﻳﺰﻳﻮﻥ ﺗﻤﺎﺷﺎ‬
‫ﺗﺎ ﭼﻪ ﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﻩ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ ﺯﺩﻩ ﺑﻮﺩﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﻛﺎﺭﻯ ﺩﺳﺘﺸﺎﻥ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺑﻬﺎﻧﻪ ﻫﺎﻯ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺤﺎﻝ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﻫﻢ ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﺴﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺳﺮﺑﺎﺯ ﻣﻰ ﺯﻧﻨﺪ؟‬ ‫ﺗﺨﺘﺨﻮﺍﺏ ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ؟ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﻫﻤﺰﻣﺎﻥ‬
‫ﺑﻴﺎﻭﺭﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻛﺴﻰ ﺭﺍ ﭼﻪ ﻋﻮﺍﻣﻠﻰ ﺳﺒﺐ ﻣﺨﺎﻟﻔﺖ ﺁﻧﺎﻥ‬ ‫‪-4‬ﺑﻰ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻧﻖ ﻧﻤﻰ ﺯﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺨﺘﺨﻮﺍﺏ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭﺍﻡ‬
‫ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻭ ﻫﻢ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞ‬ ‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻣﻮﺛﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺛﺎﺑﺖ ﻣﻰ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺧﺎﻧﻤﻬﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺍﻗﻊ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ‬ ‫ﺯﻭﺟﻬﺎﻯ ﺧﻮﺷﺒﺨﺖ ﻧﻘﺎﻁ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﻫﻤﺎﻫﻨﮓ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻭ ﺷﻜﺮﮔﺰﺍﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺎﺷﺪ!‬ ‫ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻰ ﺑﻴﻨﻨﺪ ﻭﻟﻰ‬ ‫ﺣﺘﻰ ﺍﮔﺮ ﻗﺼﺪ ﺑﺮﻗﺮﺍﺭﻯ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺟﻨﺴﻰ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺧﻰ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﺪﺷﺎﻥ ﻧﻤﻰﺁﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻘﺎﻁ ﺿﻌﻒ ﺍﻭ ﻫﻢ ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻰ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﺷﺪﻥ ﻫﻤﺰﻣﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ‬
‫‪ – 4‬ﺁﻗﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﻋﻤﻮﻣﺎ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺳﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭﻯ‬ ‫ﺳﺮ ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﺧﻮﻳﺶ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻼﻩ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫‪-7‬ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﻣﻰ ﺭﻭﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﺎﻯ ﻧﻖ ﺯﺩﻥ ﻣﺪﺍﻡ ﻭ‬ ‫ﺗﺨﺖ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻰ ﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻤﻮﺍﺭﻩ‬
‫ﺯﻳﻮﺭﺁﻻﺕ ﺧﻮﺷﺸﺎﻥ ﻧﻤﻰﺁﻳﺪ‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﻰ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻧﻤﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺳﺨﻨﺎﻥ ﺁﺯﺍﺭﺩﻫﻨﺪﻩ ﻭ ﺍﻧﺘﻘﺎﺩﺍﺕ ﻛﻮﺑﻨﺪﻩ‬ ‫ﺩﺭ ﺗﻼﺵ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﻳﻚ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﻳﻜﻰ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻻﻳﻞ‬ ‫ﭼﻮﻥ ﻣﻰﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﺑﺎ ﺯﻥ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻯ‬ ‫ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻳﻚ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺷﺒﺎﻧﻪ ﺿﺮﻭﺭﻯ‬ ‫ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻯ ﺩﺭ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ‬
‫ﺑﺎﺯﻫﻢ ﺷﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻫﻢ ﭼﻨﺪﺍﻥ‬ ‫ﺍﺟﺘﻨﺎﺏ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ‪ ،‬ﻭﺭﻡ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺷﺒﻴﻪ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺍﻭﻝ‬ ‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺷﺎﻥ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺁﺯﺭﺩﻩ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ‪،‬‬ ‫ﺑﻪ ﭘﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﺑﺮﺳﺎﻧﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻮﺟﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻧﺮﺳﺪ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﻌﻀﻰ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ…‪.‬‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻳﺪﻩ ﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻃﻮﻝ‬ ‫ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻳﻚ ﻣﻜﺎﻟﻤﻪ ﻣﻨﻄﻘﻰ ﺑﻴﺎﻥ ﻣﻰ‬
‫ﻣﺮﺩﻫﺎ ﺍﺻﻼ ﺑﺎ ﺯﻳﻨﺖ ﺁﻻﺕ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ‬ ‫ﺭﻭﻣﺎﺗﻴﺴﻤﻰ ﻣﻔﺎﺻﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ ﻋﻘﻴﺪﻩ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻯ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺮﺩﻡ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﺐ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﻳﺰﻯ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ‬ ‫‪-2‬ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﺳﺮﮔﺮﻣﻰ ﻫﺎﻯ‬
‫ﻣﺜﻞ ﺍﻧﮕﺸﺘﺮ ﻭ ﮔﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻨﺪ ﻭ … ﺭﺍﺣﺖ‬ ‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﻴﻤﺎﺭﻯ‪،‬ﻣﻔﺎﺻﻞ ﺍﻧﮕﺸﺘﺎﻥ ﺩﭼﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ‪ ،‬ﺑﺰﺭگﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺳﻤﺒﻞ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ‬ ‫ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺩﻭﻧﻔﺮﻩ ﺑﺪﻝ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻗﺮﺍﺭ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺘﺮﻛﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭ ﺑﺮﺧﻰ ﻣﺸﺨﺼﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻧﮕﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫ﻭﺭﻡ ﻣﻰﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﻋﻼﻗﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻳﻚ ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﺷﺒﺎﻧﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺍﻧﮕﺸﺖﺷﺎﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻭ‬ ‫ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺑﺎ ﮔﺬﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﺎﻳﺪ ﻟﺒﺎﺱ ﭘﻮﺷﻴﺪﻥ‬ ‫‪-5‬ﻛﻠﻴﺸﻪ ﺳﻼﻡ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ‬ ‫ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺳﺮﮔﺮﻣﻰ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﺸﺘﺮﻙ‬
‫ﺍﻧﮕﺸﺘﺮﻯ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺩﺷﻮﺍﺭ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻣﺪﺗﻰ ﺍﺯ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﺩﻭ ﻧﻔﺮ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﻭ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻨﻴﻨﻰ ﻣﻀﺤﻚ‬ ‫ﺑﻮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺟﺮﺍ‬ ‫ﺩﺭ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺣﺎﺋﺰ ﺍﻫﻤﻴﺖ‬
‫ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻰ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺣﻠﻘﻪﻫﺎﻯ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝﺷﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻨﻈﺮ ﺑﺮﺳﺪ ﻭﻟﻰ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻗﻮﺕ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﺍﺿﺢ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻻﺯﻡ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻫﻤﻪ‬
‫‪ – 5‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻠﺖ ﺷﻬﺮﺗﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‬ ‫‪ – 3‬ﺁﻗﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵﻛﺎﺭ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺁﻗﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﺑﺨﺸﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﺮﻗﻪ ﻧﻮﺭﺍﻧﻰ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﮔﺮﻣﻰ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻤﺴﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ‬ ‫ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭﺷﻦ ﻧﮕﻪ ﻣﻰ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺧﻮﺷﺤﺎﻝ‬ ‫ﺍﺷﺘﺮﺍﻙ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‬
‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻯ ﺷﺨﺼﻴﺖﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﻌﺮﻭﻑ ﻣﺜﻞ‬ ‫ﺍﺟﺘﻨﺎﺏ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻻﻳﻞ‬ ‫ﻗﺒﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻘﺼﺪ ﻣﺤﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﺳﺮﮔﺮﻣﻰ ﻫﺎﻳﻰ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‬
‫ﺑﺎﺯﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ‪ ،‬ﺳﻴﺎﺳﺘﻤﺪﺍﺭﺍﻥ‪ ،‬ﺧﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪﻩﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﭼﻨﺪﺍﻥ ﻗﺎﻧﻊ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻣﺘﻔﺎﻭﺕ ‪ .‬ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩﻯ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺑﻮﺩ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻛﺎﺭ ﺗﺮﻙ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺧﻮﺩ‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﻳﻚ ﺯﻭﺝ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ‬
‫ﻭ … ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ ﻣﻰﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻧﺮﺳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺮﺧﻰ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺮﺩﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﺑﻮﺳﻪ ﺧﺪﺍﺣﺎﻓﻈﻰ ﺗﺮﻙ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺭﺳﺘﻮﺭﺍﻥ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺟﺪﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ ﺯﻳﺮﺍ ﻣﺮﺩﻡ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺷﻜﺎﺭﻯ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ ﻣﻰﺩﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺩﻻﻳﻞ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺭﺳﻰ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪.‬‬ ‫‪ -8‬ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺸﺎﺭﻛﺖ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻭ ﻣﻰ ﮔﻮﻳﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺶ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻫﺮ ﺁﺧﺮ ﻫﻔﺘﻪ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﺷﻬﺮ ﺩﻭﭼﺮﺧﻪ‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺟﺮﻳﺎﻥ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺒﺖﻫﺎﻯ‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺟﺸﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻧﻜﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻟﺬﺕ ﻣﻰ ﺑﺮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻭﻗﺖ ﺑﺎﺯﮔﺸﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﻧﻴﺰ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﻣﻰ‬ ‫ﺳﻮﺍﺭﻯ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﻳﻚ ﺧﻮﺷﮕﺬﺭﺍﻧﻰ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰﺷﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻨﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻯ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻗﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﻫﻢ ﺍﺻﻼ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ‬ ‫‪ – 1‬ﺑﻪ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻧﻮﻉ ﺷﻐﻞ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﺟﺮﺍﻯ ﻛﻠﻴﺸﻪ ﻫﺎﻯ ﺭﺍﻳﺞ ﺻﺒﺢ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﺩﻩ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺳﺮﻳﺎﻝ ﺗﻤﺎﺷﺎ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻳﻚ‬
‫ﻣﻰﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺠﺮﺩ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﻳﻚ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻰ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﻳﻜﻰ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﻭ ﺷﺎﻡ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﺣﻔﻆ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺿﺮﻭﺭﻯ‬
‫ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻰ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺎﺟﺮﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﻓﺮﺍﮔﻴﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻯ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻗﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺸﺎﻏﻞ‬ ‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﺷﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﮔﺮﻣﻰ ﻣﺪﺍﻡ ﺩﻭﻧﻔﺮﻩ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺳﺨﺖ ﻭ ﭘﺮ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻣﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻟﺬﺗﻰ ﺍﺑﺪﻯ ﻣﻰ ﺑﺮﻳﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﺎ ﺑﻮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﻭ ﺍﺑﺮﺍﺯ ﻋﻼﻗﻪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻣﻰ‬
‫ﻟﻮ ﺑﺮﻭﺩ‪.‬‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﻧﻤﻰﺗﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻰ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﺮﺩﻡ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺖ‬ ‫‪-3‬ﺣﺲ ﻻﻣﺴﻪ ﺭﺍ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ‬
‫ﺟﻮﺍﻫﺮ ﻭ ﺯﻳﻨﺖ ﺁﻻﺕ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺑﻰ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ‬ ‫ﺷﺮﺍﻛﺖ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺎﻳﻰ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻮﺍﺳﻄﻪ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭﻯ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺑﻰ‬ ‫ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ‬
‫‪ – 6‬ﻣﺨﺎﻟﻒ ﻋﻘﺎﻳﺪﺷﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﻜﺎﻧﻴﻚﻫﺎﻯ ﺍﺗﻮﻣﺒﻴﻞ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭﮔﺮﺍﻥ‬ ‫ﺷﺮﺍﻛﺖ ﺍﺯ ﻟﺬﺕ ﻫﺎ‪ ،‬ﻋﻼﻗﻤﻨﺪﻯ ﻫﺎ ﻭ‬ ‫ﺍﻫﻤﻴﺖ ﻗﻠﻤﺪﺍﺩ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻰ‬
‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻤﺎﻧﻰ‪ ،‬ﻳﺎ ﺧﻠﺒﺎﻧﺎﻥ ﻧﻈﺎﻣﻰ ﺍﺯ ﺟﻤﻠﻪ‬ ‫ﺍﺳﺎﺳﻰ ﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﻛﻠﻴﺸﻪ ﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻢ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭﻯ‬ ‫ﺯﻭﺝ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﻮﻓﻖ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻯ ﻛﻮﭼﻜﻰ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺧﻰ ﻓﺮﻗﻪﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﺴﻴﺤﻴﺖ ﻣﺨﺎﻟﻒ‬ ‫ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻰ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺛﺮ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺧﻼﻗﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﭼﻮﻥ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻳﺎ ﺑﺎﺯﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺎﺯﻭﻯ‬
‫ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺍﻥ‬ ‫ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﺑﺮﺍﻳﺸﺎﻥ ﺗﻘﺮﻳﺒﺎ ﻣﻴﺴﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﻼ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﻫﻤﺴﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﻳﺎﺩﺩﺍﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺣﺲ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﻓﺮﻗﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ‬ ‫ﻻﻣﺴﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺯﻭﺝ ﻫﺎ ﺣﺘﻰ ﺑﺎ ﮔﺬﺷﺖ‬
‫‪ -9‬ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﻭﺍﻝ ﻋﺎﺩﻯ ﺍﻣﻮﺭ ﺭﺍ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺳﺎﻟﻬﺎ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻤﺮ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺷﺎﻥ ﻗﻮﻯ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﻧﻮﻋﻰ ﮔﻨﺎﻩ ﻣﺤﺴﻮﺏ ﻣﻰﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﺑﺮﺍﻯ‬ ‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺲ ﻫﺎ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻜﻰ ﻭ ﺻﻤﻴﻤﻴﺖ‬
‫ﻣﻰ ﺷﻜﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫‪-6‬ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮﺭﺍﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵﻧﻤﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺭﺍ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻰ ﺩﻫﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺎﺩﮔﻰ‬
‫ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺍﻥ ﺩﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﻼﻡ ﻫﻢ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﻃﻼ ﺑﺮﺍﻯ ﻣﺮﺩﻫﺎ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺷﺮﻋﻰ‬ ‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺒﺎﻳﺪ ﺷﻜﻠﻰ ﻋﺎﺩﻯ ﻭ‬ ‫ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻯ ﭘﺮﻣﺸﻐﻠﻪ ﻭ ﺩﻳﻮﺍﻧﻪ ﻭﺍﺭ‬
‫ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭﻯ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻃﻮﻝ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻮﻧﻰ ﭼﻨﺪﺍﻥ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻭﺟﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻰﺁﻭﺭﺩ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺭﻭﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭﻯ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ؟ ﻫﺮ ﺷﺐ‬

‫‪ – 7‬ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﻰ ﻭﻓﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﺸﺎﺑﻬﻰ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟ ﺍﮔﺮ‬
‫ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﺧﻴﺎﻧﺖ‪ ،‬ﺟﻨﺒﻪﺍﻯ ﺗﺎﺳﻒ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻰ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻳﻚ ﺯﻥ ﻭ‬
‫ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﮔﺮﭼﻪ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻫﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻰ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﻨﻰ‬
‫ﺗﺮﺩﻳﺪ ﻫﻤﺴﺮﺍﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪،‬‬ ‫ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺧﻰ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﺪﺷﺎﻥ ﻧﻤﻰﺁﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ‬ ‫ﻛﺎﺭﻯ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﻳﺰﻯ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺑﺪﻝ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺳﺮ ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﺧﻮﻳﺶ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻼﻩ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻏﻮﺵ ﻫﻢ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺧﻰ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻧﻤﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻳﺪﻥ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺷﺎﺩ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‬
‫ﭼﻮﻥ ﻣﻰﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻭﻗﺘﻰ ﺑﺎ ﺯﻥ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻯ‬ ‫ﻭ ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺳﺮﮔﺮﻣﻰ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﺯﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﺪﻥ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ‬

‫ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺘﻰ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫‪-10‬ﺗﻠﻔﻦ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻰ ﮔﺬﺍﺭﻧﺪ‬

‫ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﻯ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺷﻜﺎﺭﻯ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﻧﻤﻰﺁﻭﺭﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﻰﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﺯﻳﺮﺍ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺣﻠﻘﻪﺷﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﺯﻭﺝ ﻫﺎﻯ ﻣﻮﻓﻖ ﮔﻮﺷﻰ ﻣﻮﺑﺎﻳﻞ ﻭ‬
‫ﻣﺠﺮﻡ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻰﺭﺳﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻫﺮﺍﺱ‬ ‫ﺩﺭ ﺣﻴﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ ﻛﺎﺭﺷﺎﻥ‬ ‫ﺗﻠﻔﻦ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻰ ﮔﺬﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺟﺎﻳﻰ ﻣﺠﺒﻮﺭ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﮔﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻰ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺷﺎﻳﻨﺪ ﺑﻴﻔﺘﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺩﻭ ﻧﻔﺮﻩ ﺷﺎﻥ ﻣﺘﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﻣﻰ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﻫﺮ‬
‫ﺑﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻛﺜﺮﺍ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ‬ ‫ﺩﺳﺖ ﺧﺎﺭﺝ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﮔﻢ‬ ‫ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻰ ﻫﻢ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺩﺭ ﻓﻀﺎﻯ‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺣﻠﻘﻪ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝﺷﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺻﺮﻑ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻻﻳﻞ ﺁﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻯ‬ ‫‪ – 2‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻠﺖ ﺳﻼﻣﺘﻰ‬ ‫ﻣﺠﺎﺯﻯ ﺑﻴﺎﻓﺘﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻬﻢ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﭼﻪ‬
‫ﻧﻤﻰﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﺑﺮ ﺍﻳﻦ‬ ‫ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻗﻴﻤﺖ ﺑﺎﻻﻯ ﺣﻠﻘﻪﻫﺎ ﺍﺯ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﺍﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺍﺷﻜﺎﻟﻰ ﺩﺍﺭ ﻓﻴﺲ ﺑﻮﻙ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻨﺴﺘﺎﮔﺮﺍﻡ‬
‫ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ‪ ،‬ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻯ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻮﺍﺩ ﺳﺎﺯﻧﺪﻩ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺘﻈﺮ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ؟ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻴﺪ ﻳﻚ‬
‫ﻫﻤﺴﺮﺍﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻧﻰ ﺑﻰﻭﻓﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﮔﻢ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺁﻥ ﻫﺮﺍﺱ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻣﻮﻓﻖ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺣﺘﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﻋﻠﺖ ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ ﺩﻗﺖ‬
‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻰ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬ ‫ﺍﺭﺯﺷﻤﻨﺪ ﻣﻰ ﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬